Messages/Acknowledgments

Message from YouthBuild’s President

Dorothy Stoneman

I could never have succeeded in creating YouthBuild and building it up to where it is today without the help of many mentors along the way. For example, Leroy Looper, our founding board chair, was always there for me with advice and reassurance when things got confusing or hard. I could call him any time. His help was so important because he came from a different background and could explain things I didn’t know from my own experience. I think we all need mentors from the same background, who deeply understand our experience; and we also need mentors from different backgrounds who can give us insight into territory we don’t yet understand.

As president of YouthBuild USA I have also had the opportunity to be a men- tor to a lot of YouthBuild students and graduates. It is wonderful when they trust me with what is really going on in their lives and what their goals really are. It is great when they call me to report on their successes, and equally great when they call me to ask for help in thinking through a problem. It makes me happy when I can find ways to be truly helpful in overcoming their challenges.

Sincerely,
Dorothy Stoneman

A Note About Being a Mentor

Carlos E. Campos

I believe that the core of every mentoring relationship is taking a personal stake in someone—establishing an emotional bond that says “I am pouring my life, my experiences, my love, and my attention into you.” While this may seem daunting to prospective mentors, the message we should send is that they are not in it alone. We should honor their commitment, their time, and their uncertainty by being committed to training them, monitoring their relationship, and helping them every step of the way.

Rabindranath Tagore, an Indian poet, once said “All that is not given is lost.” That is a powerful message for our mentors. Our mentors will come from a wide range of backgrounds and experiences. There is no “mentor template,” but good mentors know that it is about giving, not receiving. Our new mentors are the new heroes in the lives of YouthBuild students. They are, as Napoleon Bonaparte said of leaders, “dealers in hope.”

Sincerely,
Carlos E. Campos
Director National Mentoring Alliance, YouthBuild USA

Acknowledgments

The original development of this manual was made possible through a generous grant from the Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention, U.S. Department of Justice. The primary author is Michael Garringer, with input from his colleagues at the National Mentoring Center at Education Northwest. Key conceptual and editing contributions were made by John Bell, vice president for leadership development and the YouthBuild Academy for Transformation, with further editing by Carlos Campos, director of the YouthBuild USA National Mentoring Alliance. Eric Stansbury, YouthBuild’s program officer at OJJDP, gave final approval. Thanks to all.